Hypermasculinity
Mark Dery doesn’t get it. He thinks homosexual men are feminine. Ha! They’re the opposite of feminine; they’re hypermasculine. As Marilyn Frye observes in “Lesbian Feminism and the Gay Rights Movement: Another View of Male Supremacy, Another Separatism,” homosexual men don’t limit themselves to women, sexually speaking. They “fuck” men. What’s more masculine: “fucking” only women or “fucking” men as well as women? Here is Frye:
The proscription against male-male fucking is the lid on masculinity, the limiting principle which keeps masculinity from being simply an endless firestorm of undifferentiated self. As such, that proscription is necessarily always in tension with the rest of masculinity. This tension gives masculinity its structure, but it is also forever problematic. As long as males are socialized constantly to masculinity, the spectre of their running amok is always present. The straight male’s phobic reaction to male homosexuality can then be seen as a fear of an unrestricted, unlimited, ungoverned masculinity. It is, of course, more than this and more complicated; but is this, among other things. (Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory [Trumansburg, NY: The Crossing Press, 1983], 143 [italics in original])
Frye is an analytic philosopher as well as a feminist.